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Originally Posted by Nancy1999  I understand, it can be very difficult when you are the only one who's fighting for it, but I'm just saying that the way it is in most marriages that last. If he's going to AA, it sounds like he's attempting to make some major changes in his life, and he probably thinks if you weren't in his life, he could just drink and be happy. He will be going through a emotional rollercoaster the first year of abstinence, and needs to learn how to communicate his feelings instead of drinking them away. I'm just saying I highly recommend counseling because even if you decide divorce is the best thing, you will feel better about your decision, and discover what you want out of life and how to get it. |
I agree with this post. Sometimes people are afraid to really deal with raw emotions and take the shortest path to a solution. You've two have probably gone thru so much together and are very tired of supporting each other that you need to take time for yourself. Constant support can be very emotionally taxing and you may not even realize just how much. Maybe a trial seperation may be what the 2 of you need for now. Each of you may need to recharge before each of you are able to help the other. Sending you good thoughts and hugs. Good luck with your decision.