[Marlee]

I appreciate your insight, but in some of the things you said I do disagree. For one, I did visit often, I called her all the time and she helped make the choice to move their in the first place, it was about the school there vs. here, personally I hate the school district we are in, when we moved we thought it was in the best in the state, turns out we missed it by 1 block...

She came here often as well during the summers and holidays, so I did not just send her up there, never talked to her again. I was as actively involved as I could be from 500 miles.

I also know from talking to her before she wanted to come home, we were waiting for summer as to not interrupt her school, but she said before this is what she wanted ( Feb. 3rd of this year) A week later she called us and confirmed again she wanted to come home as soon as school was out. The next week is when my mom learned about me and my husband reconciling, and that is when I was cut out, since that time I have talked with her only a few times where she has said something different, and my mom was in the background the whole time.

I did tell them all of them if she wanted to continue with school there I was fine with that. However I wanted her summers and all vacation holydays from school. That way we still would get her here in our family for a fair amount of time, and in the other months I would travel there. My family at this point filed for custody, and the restraining order. Now if it was only about her wanting to live there, why try to exclude us from seeing her at all.

As far as abuse, I no without a shadow of a doubt no one in our home would ever do anything. In fact I am so confident in that fact I would give free access for any agency to walk in and check us at any time. Without notice. I can also say that our children have seen the same doctor since we moved to this state, the schools are actively involved in our lives as 2 of our other children have more special needs. I have people that work with my 2nd oldest as she is hard of hearing so people that work for the state are around a lot.

Would there be no sign of abuse in that kind of actively, or would there not have been a single red flag somewhere.

I just do not see how my daughter could have changed so fast without being told horrible things about us. I just dont. I also know because our 2nd oldest was there for a short time. That things were being said, she was told they no longer needed to call us mom and dad, that they did not have to see us. To me that is my mom causing my children to alienate us. Yes I agree I made a mistake by sending her there. Trust me I regret it. Yet when I did I thought I was getting my daughter started in a school district that we were moving to, therefore preventing a move to where she knew no one in the middle of Jr. high.

I am not offended, I think you have some valid points. But I think in this case I am being shafted. I think my mom is doing this because they do not like my husband, and are mad I stayed with him. I think they are actively trying to destroy a relationship with my daughter. I do know as well, someday she will know, no matter what, I loved her enough to fight for her, to show I was not willing to give up, and stand up and say that no matter what she is my daughter. Something they have tried to undermine as well.