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Originally Posted by Too Cute Teddy  This is what we would be doing - I am not putting any money down - he would be doing the full down payment, and I would probably wind up buying the furniture that I want, which wouldn't even come close to the dp amount. I think what hurt me more than anything wasn't the warning about a loss of assets if we broke up - that is understandable, but the comment that if we buy a house together we shouldn't ever bother getting married b/c what is the point. I almost wanted to say you have a child so what is the point of ever getting married  which is so not like me to want to say something like that - especially because I am from that type of situation |
Do you want to get married? Does your boyfriend want to get married? I mean does he openly say that he is not against getting married? My ex used to tell EVERYONE around us that he didnt want to get married EVER... then with me he'd say he would marry me. I think the house was his lame way of keeping me around, locking me into a relationship that would not provide me what I wanted... he would provide 'just enough' to keep me around longer. Eventually the truth comes out and I KNEW at the time that I should not have bought the house with him. I didn't listen to my gut. He used the HOUSE as a reason to not get married. Oh 'we cannot afford to get married' bc of the mortgage, etc... Just make sure you are not sacrificing what YOU want for what HE wants. Make sure there is an even balance there, that you BOTH want the house and you BOTH want to get married, etc... If not, you'll end up regretting your decision. The house won't keep the relationship together forever, maybe just long enough to build resentment. Not that your guy is like my ex. Im just playing devils advocate with you.