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Originally Posted by Too Cute Teddy  I need the opinions of the very wise YT community!! My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over four years and have started thinking about buying a house together - we are both teachers, have secure jobs and make decent money. We went to see a house last night that we really like that is a decent price, in a nice neighborhood, and on a quarter acre, which is a nice size lot for the area where I'm from. One of my best friends went with us just to look when we went to see the house, and she kept saying how nice it was and we should make an offer and if we didn't she would tell her parents about it. Now today, she called me and was with one of our other good friends and they both asked me why I would think of buying a house with someone I wasn't engaged to, and if I was going to live with someone before getting married, then why ever bother getting married in the future. Now keep in mind that this friend just dumped her bf of 7 years a month after getting engaged, and my other friend has a 7 y/o and just broke up with his father after 10 yrs of a crappy relationship. To get the the very long-winded point, they are making me feel really stupid for wanting to take this step, and it makes me sad that I am always there for them and very supportive, and they are telling me these things. I'm not sure how to take this, and wanted some non-biased opinions. Thanks!!  |
I will admit to being "old fashioned" when it comes to marriage. I've done the living together thing and the marriage thing and the marriage thing feels better. It also gives you security in so many areas, including financially. There isn't any guarantee either way, but a woman needs security. It doesn't cost much to get married by a Justice of the Peace and then you could have a big wedding later. I would worry about a man who would commit to buying a house together, but wouldn't commit to marriage. People find a way to afford the things they want, including a wedding. Please look at your relationship carefully and honestly. I know living together is supposed to be acceptable in today's world, but most people still think marriage should come before living together and financial commitments.