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Sunnie · 03-25-2008, 02:56 PM

I was originally going to advise you NOT to move too hastily. I was planning to tell you to be strong and get yourself together in a place you are familiar with, THEN do the move. Talking from experience...... BUT I see that you said you have friends in Florida, so I have to say, it probably could work out for you. I moved with 3 kids under the age of 10 shortly after a divorce and it was SO hard. But I moved from a place where I had NO family, to where my family lived so I did have support. I have always been very independent so it was easier for me than for some. I was scared to death of coming to a new place with no job, etc. But I put myself thru college and supported 3 kids on my own and started a whole new life. I do know friends who have divorced and moved as soon as possible because they just couldn't face being in the same place and running into thier ex with someone else. They ended up moving back in worse shape because they just were not ready for it and had no support system inplace. They were basically running away and found out that it wasn't that easy. If they had gotten themselves "healthy" BEFORE moving, they would have been much better off and had the confidence to adjust to the changes. You sound like you are well on your way to that "confident, independent mental health" and I bet you will do just great!
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Sonya

03-25-2008, 02:56 PM	#18
Sunnie Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: So. California Posts: 4,057	I was originally going to advise you NOT to move too hastily. I was planning to tell you to be strong and get yourself together in a place you are familiar with, THEN do the move. Talking from experience...... BUT I see that you said you have friends in Florida, so I have to say, it probably could work out for you. I moved with 3 kids under the age of 10 shortly after a divorce and it was SO hard. But I moved from a place where I had NO family, to where my family lived so I did have support. I have always been very independent so it was easier for me than for some. I was scared to death of coming to a new place with no job, etc. But I put myself thru college and supported 3 kids on my own and started a whole new life. I do know friends who have divorced and moved as soon as possible because they just couldn't face being in the same place and running into thier ex with someone else. They ended up moving back in worse shape because they just were not ready for it and had no support system inplace. They were basically running away and found out that it wasn't that easy. If they had gotten themselves "healthy" BEFORE moving, they would have been much better off and had the confidence to adjust to the changes. You sound like you are well on your way to that "confident, independent mental health" and I bet you will do just great! Hugs Sonya __________________ Sonya, Owned by Ladybug, Tilly, Sunshine, Beamer, Rainbow, Sonny and Righteous RIP Sunnie (11/12/2003-7/31/2009) Last edited by Sunnie; 03-25-2008 at 02:57 PM.