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Originally Posted by orinskye i dont agree with people attacking members over pms, HOWEVER, i urge you all to 'read between the lines' and be skepticle. If someone doesnt post the offending pm or use the persons name then it is probably a BS accusation. I realize we all stick together here, but please remember that some people lie or stretch the truth.
I am not saying this to rile anyone up, this is only my opinion and it comes from experience. I was accused of sending pms such as these and the person DID NOT paste the pms (if they did then they would have been laughed out of the forum) and the person DID NOT use my name (Ive been here a while and my style of writing is familiar to most members that have been here a while as well).... Everyone however decided to "stick together" and pretty much bad mouthed the "offending pmer" ........
Everyone can write what they want here, and that includes FALSE accusations...
Also i would like to point out that the "goodbye" threads about these accusations have not been encouraged in the past, admin usually deletes them before they get much of a foothold.
Please look into all teh facts before you listen to someone saying they got nasty pms (and especially posting them on the board) most people will forward them to admin, those few that wish to "seek attention" will post them on the forum for public view (WITHOUT the proof or facts to back themselves up) |
I agree with this. It is not about "banding together" and getting rid of the offender because sometimes the supposed "offender" is actually innocent.
I don't agree with suspending or banning someone for a "goodbye" thread or a "I'm taking a break" thread since we are friends here and we are connected to each other and we have touched people and affected people's lives that we do not even realize including those who "lurk"and are too shy to post often and we would worry about someone who just suddenly disappeared...or at least I would and I do.
I do not believe it is done to get sympathy or to get told what a great member you are. I think it is done for the reasons the poster says it was done. It may be that they have been made to feel uncomfortable and I, for one, want to know when that happens, it may be they are losing their computer for a while, or they are having surgery or they are getting a divorce or havng a baby or going back to work or whatever.
I, for one, would like to know instead of having to wonder ....like with Aimee for instance. I worry about her because I don't know what happened.
