[For My Coby]

I, like everyone else here, is so sorry this has happened to you. It's one of a woman's worst nightmares. Please heed some of the advice you've received and do not allow your emotions (hurt, anger, embarrassment) to rule your decisions ("what" to do). Divorce may or may not be the best thing, but even if it is, you will want that divorce to not leave any more scars than it has to. So don't be too reactive (as nearly impossible as I know that must be).

If there is an actual addiction (in the clinical definition) involved, then there truly is help out there - for both of you - no matter what you decide to do with your marriage.

I am hugging you soooooooooo hard right now. If one day at a time is too much, let's just concentrate on minute to minute. You do have to breathe. Gosh I wish I could help you more.

Hugs, Diane