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Originally Posted by celstu1  *I kind of edited your post, bc you hit the nail on the head with these things! My mom got remarried, my brothers and I and her hubbys son stood at their side. My dad got married in 'secret' and didnt tell any of us until 4 months later!
I've told him things she has said to me and basically his last email to me was proof he didnt believe me at all.
This woman has a daughter almost my age who is very sick and unfortunately dying. She also lost her own mother when she was young. My dad says that she gets "sad" when she hears us talk about our mother bc she didn't have a mother growing up, and that she hates my mom. Also she begrudges my and my brothers successes in life bc her daughter will never have those things. How can a woman hold success against her husbands kids? |
Unfortunately, I can see much future heartache here for you. I said I wanted my kids to know their heritage, their grandfather. I always told my mom as long as he & my stepmother treated my kids well, I could set aside my past and all the wrongs. As soon as my stepmother had grandkids of her own, we were more or less kicked to the curb. Out of me and my 4 brothers and sisters, only 1 brother talks to my dad and he has to work very hard to make that happen. I doubt my dad even asks about the rest of us. It is hard to take, but I stand firm that it is HIS LOSS!!! It is a real shame that he has 5 children who turned out great (no thanks to him) and 9 grandchildren (6 of whom are now adults) and he doesn't really know any of them.