"Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together."
that's fantastic -- I had never heard that before!!
I've read the book -- great book - lots of sense - why do we need to have someone else tell us this; why do we want to stay in something unhealthy when we deserve more?? I read the book, then stayed in the relationship on his terms for at least another yr.
-- It took something really drastic for me to walk away from him 8 mths ago. I would never take him back in a million yrs, but I still think about him and sometimes dream about him -- and I hate it!! But he was in & out of my life for 10 yrs
If he ever contacts me again this is what I will tell him: "Personality can open doors, but only character can keep them open!"
And if I'm feeling really mean - I might add: "ie consider this door closed!"
I'm sorry you are in a hurting place. It does get better. Focus on taking care of yourself - you are worth it. Don't rush into something new & re-read, & re-read that book. I've slept with good relationship books besides me before - so they were the last thing I saw at night & the 1st thing I saw in the morning - just to keep me focused. Praying the hurt & longing goes away soon.