[Ponyup]

I'm not sure aloof is the best way to play this game. I dont' think you should change anything about the way you respond to him. If all of the sudden you start playing hard to get and aloof his worst fears will have come true, (i.e. another girl that doesn't want me or is cheating on me). As far as talking to your best friend go ahead and talk, but don't tell her anything you wouldn't say to his face because chances are good it will get back to him. I would imagine he's scared and hurt and doesn't want to take the risk of getting hurt again unless he's sure you're into him. My husband was terrified of takin risks, but me and him got a long great because i didn't play games and told him the truth and was honest with him from the beginnings. most of my girl friends thought i was insane because of the kind of things i would tell him, but i didn't care i am who i am and i just hoped he liked it. Some guys do like a challenge don't get me wrong....i've never been much of challenge, if i like a guy i tell him so, but i'm afraid if you make this guy chase you he won't because he probably chased his last girlfriend and that didn't turn out well. he may be pushing you away subconsiously trying to protect himself just let him know that taking things slow is okay and you're in no rush, but aren't going anywhere either.