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Originally Posted by bizzbeth  Thanks guys...
It i freakin so hard. I can't kick him out... we share an apartment here at school. I'll be done in March and I can move out if this is still too painful for me.
He doesn't realize (maybe he does??) that he is being an A*S to me because he always says that it's my fault in the first place. There are a lot of things wrong with our relationship... but there were so many good things too...
I've suggested counseling (awhile back) but we never looked into it...
At this point I don't know if he's willing to put in the effort. He just acts like he's so sick of me. It makes me feel like trash. I hate this...
I want to thank you all for your support and sharing your stories. It heps me to realize that I'm not alone and these things do happen, to good people, all the time. |
I have such sad feelings for you while reading this.
You should know this much though. There is NO such word as CAN'T.
If you are having problems like this now, what do you expect in the future?
A leopard does not change its spots.
Your only smart move at this moment is to kick him to the curb and get on with your life.
Dating is the time to find out if you will be compatible with your mate.
Marriage is a long time commitment.
This does not sound like a 'compatible' union at all.
But you do not need me to tell that to you.
You already know this.
If he treats you shabby now, why would he change?
Especially since you hang around no matter what?
I know this may sound cruel to you, but it is factual.
Make evaluations and look to the future, not just to the next weekend or the next month.
I am saying these things for your benefit.
Trust me, he is not the only fish in the sea.
You need to broaden your horizons and get on with your life.
I am in a happy marriage, but I had to kiss many frogs to get here.
And when I look back, I am SO glad I did not stick around for some of the questionable relationships I had been in.
Can't you find a girlfriend to move in with for the next 2 months?
Do what is BEST for you in the long run. You do not deserve this treatment.
Stand tall and be proud of what you do. Do not let him destroy your self esteem.
You deserve MUCH better.