Kathy - you have my deepest sympathy.  we spoke already but I wanted to say it again...   
I hope you can find someone you trust to leave them with - that would be a huge thing off your mind....When my husband died and I was gone 2 days for his funeral,  a good friend and member here (yorkiecrazy & MrYorkiecrazy) watched my girls... I didn't worry one little bit about them - I knew they were in great hands....When you have all the other emotions going on dealing with death - that's a big thing.   I hope you find someone soon   
I wish I could help but am sending hugs and condolences...I'm so sorry about your mom and prayers for your family        |