I am making a little head way, husband thinks I am being too aggressive and that I should SPEAK gently to him HA, If I do, I might as well give him my bed and I sleep in the crate
Well since my last post this is what I did. I fed him BUT I made sure my hands were all in his food bowl, so he had to approach ME and the bowl to get his food, while he is eating it, I am picking up a bit with my hand still inside the bowl and presenting it to him from my fingers, he took it and nibble a few times on the fingers. Then I laid my FOOT over the bowl when he tried to eat it when my hands were out of the bowl, he backed off, I moved my foot, he came to the bowl I took foot and covered bowl again, he backed off, I did this several times until he approached the bowl with CAUTION

. He ate his food and while eating I took bowl and LIFTED it, so he had to eat from the bowl that was now in my hands

. I WAS not scared this time.
Then after dinner and took him on his back in my lap, resisting or not and firmly told him NO NO NO, and proceeded to cut the hairs from below his feet in the pads. he resisted a bit until I said several times NO NO NO NO. he succumed to that. Boom, next I just finished CUTTING HIS TOE NAILS

, now this surprised me as I had not done this before, instead of him biting my hands he was licking the hell out of them. Does this mean he is becoming a good boy
I have also been taking his chewies away and feedig it to him in my hands so he has to lick hands and chewey to get it. Still not comfortable with this but I will continue.