I'm so sorry that you are having to go through this. I don't have any advice because I didn't have to deal with this kind of problem - but my friend did and I thought of her when you talked about not letting him be at home and break the rules.
That is exactly what my friend had to do, finally she had to insist her daughter move out - because she refused to follow the (very reasonable) rules for living at home. There were drugs involved too.
You know what, her daughter has turned out just fine - they have a great relateionship now. She lived with friends for a while and then with some other relatives and now she is manager of a coffee house, multiple ones, I think.
Yes, you do have to trust that you have laid a great foundation and after he gets over this "independence trip", he will be just fine.
It must be really hard, I'm so sorry.
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