[Susanbee51]

Originally Posted by Graleyne

I guess I just get frustrated because I feel like I have no say so in how my kids are raised.

It isn't that she disagrees with the type of diet I would like to feed them, its that I know that she will flat out go against it.

She doesn't have to (and I certainly don't expect her to) AGREE with my parenting style, but she absolutely 100% has to RESPECT it. They are MY children. But she doesn't respect it. She doesn't respect ME.

I am just really tired of it all. It is like everyday it is something else. Everything is a battle and I am TIRED.

I don't feed them the right kind of food. I don't put the right kind of clothes on them. I don't fix their hair the right way. They don't wear the right jacket on the right kind of day. I don't iron their clothes - or if I do then I do it wrong.

I mean honestly, all of this sounds like little things I should be able to just ignore and let go, but I hear it all EVERY SINGLE DAY, and more than once a day. Yes it does sound like little things, but those little things can escalate into bigger things. This so reminds me of what I went through so many years ago. The little things for me turned into bigger things as I stated in the previous post, and it did put a wedge in our marriage and eventually we did divorce. If you and your husband love each other, don't let her continue, old or not. How old is she anyway? 80 or 90?

MOST of the time Mike defends me, but there are times when he just hands me a load of excuses. "She did the same thing with Timmy." Then when I tell him I hope she enjoyed doing it with Timmy because she is done doing it with Olivia, I have to hear that she is old and I just have to overlook her yadda yadda.
It is really sad that she has been allowed to continue with her control. And I will remind you, there are no excuses for this type of behaviour. I don't care how old she is. That is just a bunch of bull, "She's old so we have to cater to her, NOT. It seems that your husband really is tired of her control and so to escape from it, it is easier for him to let you deal with her. You shouldn't have to deal with it, since it is his mother. I guess I'm just throwing an Aerrica pity party today. I'm just frustrated with everything.

I am not trying to hijack your thread.