I was always taught to respect my elders, but not at the cost of my children's emotional well being. It is not a fun thing to do to think you might hurt someone's feelings, but, sometimes it cannot be helped. She may get her feelings hurt, but if your husband and you don't stand up to her, it will wear on you emotionally, put a strain on your marriage and possibly even destroy your marriage. You will get to a point, and it sounds like you are close, that you will resent your MIL. Don't let it get to that point. |