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Originally Posted by Bizzymammabee  He has a few red flags for me. Seems to not have much drive and ambition. I know when your young and just finished high school you sometimes feel like you need a break. He has already had a semester off and should be making plans or making moves.
At 19 how much debt does he have? I agree that it's nice to be with someone that makes as much money as you do but that is not always the case and you shouldn't let money rule your life like that. Over the years hubby and I have made changes to our careers so we have had income fluxes. That doesn't bother me at all. I just personally can't and won't be with a man with no ambition but I don't care what he does for a living as long as he does something.
The neediness and not taking into consideration your personal situation does send up a big flag for me. Seems very selfish and like he will be a very possessive person and I don't like people like that. Part of being in a relationship is trusting. While he jokes about which ex etc you were hanging out with he means that. Especially being as you have told him it bothers you and yet he still continues to bring that up. I have seen girls start out with boyfriends like that and they progress into more and it gets a bit scary.
If I were you seeing as your currently career minded I would date around. I would not waste my time on him. You will see as you get a bit older and enter different phases in your life you will meet people that match those levels. Right now I think you should concentrate on school and see how things go. I think if you don't date a few people you can't really honestly know what you want in a mate. There is a little experimenting that goes on in relationships and you learn what you can and cant' live with or without. I am not saying you have to date a lot of people but your young so don't limit yourself. I have a little sister your age and some nieces and nephews not that far behind. I have given them the same advice that I have shared with you.
Good luck. If you were my sister asking me about this situation I would tell you to get rid of him and keep it moving. |
Unfourtunatly he is not really making any moves and i am constantly asking what are you going to do this up and comming semester and he always replies i dont know. And really i dont care what a guy does with his career options as long as he does something, I guess i made that assumption about college boys when i was younger and now that i look back at it i am pretty much saying i dont want someone who slacks off. he has a 21000 car and at least 3000 in credit cards, he has missed his car payments so now the bill is 1500. And I totally agree with you that he really does mean it when he says he's joking. Ultimately I really feel not much pity for him at all when i get mad when he does that. It really pushes me away from him when he does it and he knows that. Thank you very much for your advice, very helpful.