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Originally Posted by kewtee I
Go stand up for yourself and get help my friend!
EDIT: I just read the former posts thougroughly (sp?) and I do not agree that you should take care of your mother and be extra helpful. She is a victim because she chooses to be one instead of getting up and getting out. Your mom is NOT your responsibility, you are hers and she is a grown woman who should take care of her children and not teach them to put up with abuse.
You just take care of yourself - you have a whole life ahead of you and can still choose not to follow in your parents footsteps... |
I would agree with kewtee 100%- you need to take care of yourself! Have you ever heard of Alateen or Ala-non?(sp?) You can look in the phone book for such groups. People there are in the same boat you are and are a great resource for you.
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http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/english.html
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The following questions are to help you decide whether Alateen is for you.
Do you have a parent, close friend or relative whose drinking upsets you?
Do you cover up your real feelings by pretending you don't care?
Does it seem like every holiday is spoiled because of drinking?
Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else's drinking or what's happening in your home?
Do you stay out of the house as much as possible because you hate it there?
Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking bout?
Do you feel nobody really loves or cares what happens to you?
Are you afraid or embarrassed to bring your friends home?
Do you think the drinker's behaviour is caused by you, other members of your family, friends, or rotten breaks in life?
Do you make threats such as, "If you don't stop drinking, fighting, etc., I'll run away"?
Do you make promises about behaviour such as, "I'll get better school marks, go to church or keep my room clean" in exchange for a promise that the drinking and fighting stop?
Do you feel that if your Mum or Dad loved you, she or he would stop drinking?
Do you ever threaten or actually hurt yourself to scare your parents into saying, "I'm sorry," or "I love you"?
Do you believe no one could possibly understand how you feel?
Do you have money problems because of someone else's drinking?
Are meal times frequently delayed because of the drinker?
Have you considered calling the police because of drinking behaviour?
Have you refused dates out of fear or anxiety?
Do you think that if the drinker stopped drinking, your other problems would be solved?
Do you ever treat people (teachers, school mates, team mates, etc.) unjustly because you are angry at someone else for drinking too much?
Sorry this is so long but you have to take care of you- so the cycle does not repeat itself!
I work with folks everyday about such topics if you need to chat PM me and we can talk sometime!
Hugs, good luck and stay strong!