Originally Posted by ItsyBitsy  Your situation sounds similar to mine.
When I was 23, I met Pete. Previous to meeting Pete, I was in a lot of destructive relationships. Pete helped me learn to love myself and know that I have much to offer. He really helped me grow as a person and he's a fantastic person, but we have too many things that we can't agree on. After the second year of being together, we argued non-stop about everything. I was Pete's first girlfriend ever, so he had a lot to learn about where the girlfriend/fiancee fall in the priority list. Our biggest issue was that he was a mama's boy. His father died a few years prior to me meeting him, and his mother is very needy. He basically let me know that if I married him, I will never be first. We broke up after 5 years of dating, but we still spoke every other day.
During that time, I was in my second year of college, and I started hanging out with a guy that was in my class. I was 26 then and he was 22. When I met Ivan, I think I met my soul mate. I have never met anyone that I connected with like I did with Ivan. But I was scared, Ivan was so much younger than I (even though he had the maturity of guys much older). During that period of time, I was still talking to Pete. I told Pete I was seeing someone and he freaked. Pete cried and begged me back. I was so torn! I wanted to be with Ivan, but Pete made me feel so guilty. Pete was there for me when I was going through rough patches in my life, and he basically told me that I owed it to him, and I felt like I did owe him. So I broke if off with Ivan and went back with Pete.
So, Pete and I got back together, we stayed together for another year and I've regretted it ever since. After being together another year, I broke it off for good because I knew that being with him is not what I wanted.
After Pete and I broke up, I dated a guy for 2.5 years, we broke up last Christmas because he wasn't what I wanted either...
So, here I am, 32 years old and single. I regret not going with my heart and being with Ivan.
My only advice to you is to go with your heart and take a chance. You should never settle because of fear.
I have never regretted breaking up with Pete. If I stayed with Pete, I would have been married with kids by now, but I don't regret it in the least. Even though I am single, I feel very fulfilled. I do what I want, when I want and I have my furbabies. |