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Originally Posted by meglaulanmar  If you read my thread... you would realize I was just trying to save her son from massive guilt. Are you a teenager? How about a mother. What most of us know after having children or really evaluating decisions made as a teen and preteen is that teen agers are all brain damaged. I know of where I speak... I have a daughter that actually has brain damage and a son that is a genius but I could swear that he has brain damage sometimes. It is a WELL documented fact that as teenagers especially early on there is a lag in brain development in the action and reaction part of the brain. This is why we don't let 14 yr olds drive. I was trying to say this pre-emptively before anyone said it in a negative way. BECAUSE if he did do it... he probably didn't realize what would happen. I mean there are kids that torture animals... but I WAS NOT SAYING that he was one of those... just perhaps he had a lack of judgement... and if she said on it was just an accident and the dog dies or is permantely damaged the kid would have tremendous guilt because he would know it wasn't (AND STILL THAT IS JUST IF ...IF HE DID IT ON PURPOSE) an accident. I just wanted her to reassure her son that even if he was playing w/ her... did it to see what the puppy did... that he didn't live w/ possibly life long guilt.
I know where of I speak because I killed my favorite kitten in the world by slamming her head in the car door when I was twelve. I almost had a nervous break down over it. And that was a total accident... but I lived w/ the thought what if i had done this or that. These things can scar a kid... just wanted her to cover all the bases. I was not implying she had a psycho Jeffrey Dommer on her hands...lol!
I hope that the creater of the post understands what I was getting at... and if she does.. that is all that matters... don't care what anyone else thinks! |
I do understand where your heart was, but it felt as though you were placing blame on an already heatbroken young man. I guess I thought it was just a little too soon to mention it given the gravity of the situation. I'm not a teenager, but I am a mother of a 3 yr old boy. It just seemed to me when I read it that it was a conversation in which you would have with a much younger child. Teenagers do lack in their "judgement" brain area whilst their "implusive" area is being developed rapidly. I just didn't imagine that some who DOES know right from wrong would make a decison to do such a thing, but i suppose it is possible. Again, I did not mean to offend you, and I'm sure the OP understood you intentions. Sorry again...