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Originally Posted by pepe mint  i agree. but someone also told me this:
her father and I did not work out. If my husband and I do not work out, she will see a pattern. In her eyes, it could look like Mommy cannot hold a relationship. she cannot make it work. she is not capable of working things out...but runs away instead.
so i think about that. and i have to wonder if this person is right. is it worse that i stay in a relationship where i do not love him, or is it worse on her if she see's me giving up all the time? if i lead by example...which example is the least destructive? |
You do not know me and you may not even care about my opinion.
However, You need to do what is best for you at this time. An unhappy mom is not in your daughter's best interest. So many women have gone into relationships basing them on what their mom's poor marriage was like ...
you are not setting a good example by staying in this relationships if you are not happy. Then you are only showing your daughter what a "bad" marriage is, not a happy one.
You mentioned future plans, but those are just material things and not happiness. You are still young and should be happier than you are.
Think about it... here you are on a public forum spilling your sadness to others. How sad you must be to do that.
And your close friends see the difference in you. It takes a strong person to realize that a mistake has been made and to rectify it.
Your daughter will have more respect for you if you do something that makes you happy.
You are not giving up, you are trying to find happiness. Your daughter will see this for what it is and that will be the best gift you can give her.