[Kamen]

Now I am not an expert when it comes to this kind of stuff, because I have never really dealt with it personally or with someone I loved. My brother-in-law used to be addicted to Pain Killers, but that was ages ago and I was pretty young.

But on the hindsight of things I do watch a lot of the show Intervention on A&E and hopefully just from that I can help you out a bit. You say you have known about his problem for quite some time correct? It wasn't just like one day you stumbled in and saw him using and said "That's it! You are going in to rehab!" right? Well in most cases from people being around a user the first thing they need to do besides helping the person realize they have a problem and need to seek help is to seek help for themselves. You have more than likely been emotionally scared by this whole ordeal struggling with not only him, but yourself as well knowing that you enabled him to do this.

Also, I am unsure as to how old your children are, but they are a lot smarter then some may think when it comes down to this kind of stuff. If you believe they do not know what is going on chances are pretty high that they do. They just don't understand it. It would be good for you and your children to seek individual and group therapy to help fix yourselves while your husband works on finding out the reasons why he started using in the first place so he can get better. I can only imagine what you are going through and I truly hope things work out for the best for you and your family. If you ever need someone to talk to or a shoulder to cry on, we are here for you.