You need to have a come to you know who talk with DH. You guys HAVE TO be on the same page. Wish I had some better advice but I have the same issue with my kids right now and I think I'm headed for a breakdown. They say I read the tone into it and they are not saying things with tone or attitude.
That it's all me..
My 18 year old is the issue now. I'd just like to knock her butt through a wall sometimes.