I lost my mom 24 years ago and I still miss her and wonder what my life would've been like if she never had cancer. Then last year we lost my baby sister to it as well. I have to say that with time it does get easier. It always still hurts though. Especially when I see others enjoying what I imagine I would have if my mom were here and especially when they take it for granted. I think that the advice about therapy is good advice. I was in counselling years ago after we lost her and I think it did help although my brother disagrees so I guess it depends on the individual. I wish I could give you wonderful advice and it would make things all better but unfortunalty there is no rosy way to look at this. Although, I think my faith in God is a comfort and honestly has done more for me than counselling. After I lost mom, though, I was only 18 and I was pretty mad at him for a long time and I think that's ok. I imagine he understands that anger too. And sometimes I think that no matter how painful it was to lose her, I wouldn't trade my life for anyone else's, even that person out at work who still has her mom and she's always been there to help her thru everything and she doesn't appreciate it half as much as she should. I would talk about it and if you're the type, I would start a journal. Oh, and I would recommend reading about it as well. One of the books I liked was "For One More Day" by Mitch Albom. I have to honestly say, that sometimes especially when things are really tough like when we were losing my sister, I could feel my mom's presence and I hope that you are able to feel that as well and I hope it will bring you some comfort. Theresa |