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Originally Posted by teffiemoore  Wow, this is so sad that this girl has the message that her Mom doesn't care at her age....Two reason for kids "cutting" is, attention or high frustration levels that the act will actually provide a "release" for this frustration...I never supported my kids in hanging around with the "wrong crowd" or certain bad influences, but sometimes healthy kids can provide another option as a roll model for kids that are in trouble and have a limited support system at home, (with limited exposure for your child of course). I hope this doesn't become a burden for your preteen...it may be time to pull her completely away if you start to see that it is.. |
I too felt the same way when she first told me. I told my hubby, thats it im pulling her out of that school! but when I sat and thought about it and talked to him we came to realize that this can happen in any school and my daughter is going to be confronted with so many things..its part of life
I can try to shelter her as much as I can but ultimately she is going to be confronted with situations like this as well as drugs, smoking, sex etc. I did not forbid her to hang out with this girl because i am a firm believer in god puts people in our lives for a reason. Maybe this little girl needs my daughter, maybe my daughters friendship is what is going to get this girl the help she needs. I too thought about the fact that it may influence my daughter and she might try it, but I dont think that is the case at all.I guess because they are friends at school, they do not go out after school to the movies etc. she doesnt go over her house or anything like that. the rules in my house is that at 12 years old you have no business in the streets alone. so she doesnt have the privileges of hanging out yet. The fact that she came to me shows me that she can be trusted and she knows its wrong. It is such a hard position to be in but I leave it all in gods hand.