I think you should sit down with her and tell her that you've thought about it, and since she has shaped up, and this is her first dance, you've had a change of heart: she can earn her dance back. Make a bargain with her-if she can keep up with her chores as you've asked this week (and go ahead and make her a list), and promises to be better and no more lies, tell her she can go on Friday. You will let her know on Friday morning if she can go or not...that will keep her in good behavior, but you won't be playing the "make her sweat" game-it's best, in my opinion, to be open and honest about your expectations with your children.
This way, she knows what is expected of her, and if she performs, she can go. If she makes the choice not to do her chores, then no dance. Simple as that. |