[altigger74]

I'm going through that with my oldest son. He's 12. He is the type of kid that gives everything he has to other kids because he thinks they will be his friends. He's had problems since first grade with kids. The first two or three years it was not too bad. I taught him that he needs to ignore the bullies, if that doesn't work give them three warnings, 1. tell them to stop and leave you alone, 2. tell the kid to stop or you will tell the teacher/one in charge and then go tell, 3. do what you need to do to make them stop and that I will back you up. I know it sounds harsh to allow him to possibly fight with the bully but as a mom I want to get in touch with the school about it but I KNOW it will make life worse for him. This year is a new bully. All the ones in the past stopped bothering him when he would ignore them, but this one is getting violent. Ripping his books, throwing his lunch on the floor, pushing him...... I'm terrified as a mom but I remember bullies and my son begged me not to tell the school because there is no outward proof of course. So i told him to take care of it the best way he knew how, sometimes you have to fight fire with fire and that he would get in trouble with the school when it came down to it but he was not and will not be in trouble with us.

There's not much else I can do. Bullies are sneaky and vindictive. It tears my heart out to think he's going through this but I have to give him a chance to stand up for himself before mommy steps in. Because in JR high that is not the best thing to do.