[cowgirl5175]

I thought I was the only one who was dealing with this issue. Let me give you a little backround info. I have a daughter who is 10 and a son who is 12. I also have a fiance who is 34. My kids are VERY spoiled due to me feeling guilty after divorcing their father. My fiance had a mother who waited on him hand and foot growing up. When he walked in the door, he dropped his school stuff and she hung it up for him. Whatever clothes he wore to school would be freshly laundered waiting on him by that evening. I not only have these issues with my children, but my fiance as well. I work full time, pick my daughter up at the sitters, pick my son up from football, and then go home and cook dinner, dishes, laundry, etc. I spend all weekend every weekend just trying to get things done that I could not accomplish before I fall into an exhausted sleep every night around midnight. I am at my whits end. People think I am crazy because I have 4 furbabies, but to tell you the truth, they keep me sane! I do not know what to do. Everytime I ask the kids to do something, they throw a fit. My fiance comes home from work and falls asleep in his chair every night. Now granted he has been working non stop 12 to 16 hours days 7 days a week for the last month and a half. But before that, he still did not help. Just stopping doing anything is not an option, because I can not stand to live that way. My finance gets onto the kids for not doing anything. I always ask him how he can get onto them when he does nothing. You have to lead by example. He just looks at me. Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated. I love them all more than life itself, but I refuse to be a maid any longer!