This is so great! I love hearing everybody's ideas and how so many people have had to deal with these situations! What a great site!
Anyway, I think it is awesome that you are working hard to find the best way to work through issues that come up with your daughter now. Just think---as they get older, the situations get tougher (we would probaby be thrilled if our problem with our 16 year old was a little talking in class!!)
Anyway, sounds like you are setting the groundwork for a great and healthy relationship with your daughter!!!