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Originally Posted by tjdmom  No, it's not you I'm talking about when I say kids have to grow up to soon nowadays. I was really talking about the schools although I live in NY and maybe things are not like that everywhere. Up here kids in 1st grade and up really don't necessarily get a recess at all and the recess time they get when they do get it is not very long - like 20minutes. I think kids that age get too antsy. At least my son was that way. And by the way, your daughter sounds just like him in a lot of ways. He would talk constantly. The kid was never quite. Even other people would ask if it drove me crazy. Mostly it didn't, I loved hearing all his stories and now that he's older, he doesn't do it as much but he's still a talker. I say he's like my grandfather. And I'm not saying you shouldn't address things either. I just wouldn't be too upset about it. At our school, the kids get one warning and then they have to turn the card. Some teachers are more strict than others and maybe a softie might give more than one warning. Anthonys report cards were always good except that area where they would say he needs to focus more or talk less. And he was never so out of control that he'd need to turn the card more than once on the same day. That embarrassment was enough to remind him and by third grade, he didn't even need to be reminded. But sometimes I look back on those days and wish that I didn't have that need for him to be so perfect and I wonder even now if I still expect too much. It's only that I want so much for him but mostly I want him to grow up and be a happy person and I hope that along the way, I don't make him feel like he has to be a perfect person because then I don't think he'll ever be happy.
Anyways, enough about me..... I think you're a good mom and you'll find the best way to handle it.... good luck! |
I totally get what you are saying
and yes...they do sound a lot alike
I don't think she is ever quiet. in fact, she thinks out loud LOL talks to herself all the time too LOL
i sometimes wonder if i am too strict. but i grew up in a VERY strict "childrens home" (almost like an orphanage) and even tho i hated it there, i learned sooooooooooooo much. i don't want to be like they were...and i'm not even close...but i do try to instill the same values (just in a nicer way LOL) I want her to know that if she is in trouble at school, i will know about it, and i will not be happy. so she needs to really try to stay focused and pay attention.
about recess, i totally agree with you. i think they get a half hour for recess. and on days that they have PE, they don't get recess at all
a lot of us parents have a big problem with that. i, too, think that they need that time to "release".
she is a super smart kid...she can read and write better than anyone in her class, she catches on to her math really quick. and seems to be able to work things out really easy. i guess i worry a lot that she will end up like i was in school and not do good. she is so smart and i see so much potential with her, so when i know she is talking instead of paying attention, i want her to know that it is not ok.
but maybe this is just a phase and will pass
but if the teacher feels the need to discipline her at school, then i think it is my responsibility to re-enforce that. she needs to know that it is not ok to disobey the teacher.