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Originally Posted by pepe mint  i hope it doesn't sound like i am trying to make her grow up too fast. I know how she is...and honestly...she will talk about anything and everything when she is supposed to be focusing on something. when we read a book at night...she will be reading and then just stop...and start talking about stuff. i have to remind her to stay focused. when we are doing her math homework, she will stop and talk to the dogs right in the middle of me trying to help her. i am constantly having to tell her "stay focused...you can play when we are done". and on her progress report, her teacher said "Trinity is so much fun to have in class. She does need to be reminded to stay focused and not talk to the other kids during work time"
so i know where her teacher is coming from...we deal with this at home all the time. even eating dinner...she will suddenly get up and go do a cartwheel. we just look in amazement...and she will say "sorry" and come back to the table to eat. she just has so much she wants to do...and not enough time 
yes, one bad mark in a week for talking is not bad...but at the beginning of this month...she has 4 days one week, 2 days another week, and then this week...1 day so far. so it is not a one time deal...she has been doing this a lot lately and she just needs to learn that there is a time to talk, and a time to pay attention. and i'm sure that the teacher does not give her that mark at the first sign of her talking...she was more than likely told several times to stop talking, then had to move her star and put a mark on her folder. that is the part that she needs to understand....if you are told to stop talking by your teacher...you need to do it. bottom line. |
No, it's not you I'm talking about when I say kids have to grow up to soon nowadays. I was really talking about the schools although I live in NY and maybe things are not like that everywhere. Up here kids in 1st grade and up really don't necessarily get a recess at all and the recess time they get when they do get it is not very long - like 20minutes. I think kids that age get too antsy. At least my son was that way. And by the way, your daughter sounds just like him in a lot of ways. He would talk constantly. The kid was never quite. Even other people would ask if it drove me crazy. Mostly it didn't, I loved hearing all his stories and now that he's older, he doesn't do it as much but he's still a talker. I say he's like my grandfather. And I'm not saying you shouldn't address things either. I just wouldn't be too upset about it. At our school, the kids get one warning and then they have to turn the card. Some teachers are more strict than others and maybe a softie might give more than one warning. Anthonys report cards were always good except that area where they would say he needs to focus more or talk less. And he was never so out of control that he'd need to turn the card more than once on the same day. That embarrassment was enough to remind him and by third grade, he didn't even need to be reminded. But sometimes I look back on those days and wish that I didn't have that need for him to be so perfect and I wonder even now if I still expect too much. It's only that I want so much for him but mostly I want him to grow up and be a happy person and I hope that along the way, I don't make him feel like he has to be a perfect person because then I don't think he'll ever be happy.
Anyways, enough about me..... I think you're a good mom and you'll find the best way to handle it.... good luck!