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Originally Posted by tjdmom  I have a 13 year old and a four year so I've been there and will be there again.  What I would say first of all is that having to turn her card once a week is not bad for a first grader. It's hard to have a lot of self control at that age. I think that if you are not being called by the teacher because she has not gotten to the red star or whatever then I would probably discuss it with her and talk about how she could remind herself before she starts talking but I wouldn't make too big of a deal out of it. She's only what 6? Remember when we were in school and we had that long recess and it just seems that kids have to grow up too quick nowadays and they don't have that much time to just be kids. She's more social and that is not a bad thing and in life later on it may be one of her very best assets. Yes, she needs to learn when to listen and not talk but she will. My oldest was always a talker and my youngest is more on the shy side. I love how Anthony (13yr old) can go into a group of people and seem to make friends right away. I was always on the shy side and had a lot to be nervous about growing up and I just love how he can be so outgoing. I know the teachers don't always like it so much.... but he controls it now and doesn't have any trouble at all in school. I'm sure your little girl will too. |
i hope it doesn't sound like i am trying to make her grow up too fast. I know how she is...and honestly...she will talk about anything and everything when she is supposed to be focusing on something. when we read a book at night...she will be reading and then just stop...and start talking about stuff. i have to remind her to stay focused. when we are doing her math homework, she will stop and talk to the dogs right in the middle of me trying to help her. i am constantly having to tell her "stay focused...you can play when we are done". and on her progress report, her teacher said "Trinity is so much fun to have in class. She does need to be reminded to stay focused and not talk to the other kids during work time"
so i know where her teacher is coming from...we deal with this at home all the time. even eating dinner...she will suddenly get up and go do a cartwheel. we just look in amazement...and she will say "sorry" and come back to the table to eat. she just has so much she wants to do...and not enough time
yes, one bad mark in a week for talking is not bad...but at the beginning of this month...she has 4 days one week, 2 days another week, and then this week...1 day so far. so it is not a one time deal...she has been doing this a lot lately and she just needs to learn that there is a time to talk, and a time to pay attention. and i'm sure that the teacher does not give her that mark at the first sign of her talking...she was more than likely told several times to stop talking, then had to move her star and put a mark on her folder. that is the part that she needs to understand....if you are told to stop talking by your teacher...you need to do it. bottom line.