[QUOTE=kewtee]
See - this is - if you don't mind me being a psychobitch - not good. Confrontation is part of life and anger also and we must all learn to deal with that in a loving way that is containing. If you always avoid anger, confrontations etc, you might end up eating more than you need and being overweight, drinking, getting depressed or other unpleasent things - to numb yourself.
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Just stating facts: Im not overweight, an alcholoic, or depressed. Just someone that has been there more times than once and wants to be no part of it.
Some like to debate like there's no tomorrow and that's OK for them. And then there's those of us that don't. We all need to try to take a neutral approach. I think alot is learned in debates of different topics, we learn who has which 'hot button'. I wonder if we tried not to push them if things would not get so personal.
We need to appreciate each other for who we are.
It's not fair to say my personal preference of staying way from heated discussions 'is not good'. It works for me. I know myself I can get caught up in it and I don't want to or have the time to. I know what I believe in my heart and that others may believe different. That's all I need to know. I am happy to discuss anything and share my point of view but in my old age of 32 I learned to STOP there!!!...LOL 
Hugs,
Irene