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Originally Posted by pepe mint  i hope and pray we have that kind of relationship. that is what i strive for on a daily basis. i hear people all the time "don't be her friend, be her mother". well, i think you have to be both. otherwise, you will not have the kind of relationship that is needed when times like this come up. |
I always agree with what you have to say in your posts but this time I have to disagree...I think there is a time to be a mother and a time to be a friend. At 14 its not time to be their friend...at 18 yes..but at 14 I just dont see it being possible..I have three kids 15, 13 and 10..mind you we get along famously I am still the "mother" and dont try to take on the roll of friend..they have friends and they need a mother to lead them in the right direction whether they like it or not lol...I know I sound like a drill sargent but I swear Im not...my kids know I love them and I know they love me but I am a very strict mother..I guess its because I had a more "friend" like mother growing up...and it didnt work for me...I did what I wanted when I wanted and how I wanted because Mom thought of me as mature and old enough to be her "friend"..I wasnt and I needed the guidance of a Mom..someone to just say NO lol...ok ill get off my soapbox now lol..
Dawn