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Originally Posted by Chelsea15  I'm 15 and I have been allowed alone on dates since I was 12....
I have been dating the same person for over 2 years, we've been alone in each others rooms and home alone for a long time and I didnt do anything like "that" until this year (after talking to my mom!) and I'm almost 16.
And did I mention I wouldnt have Abby if it wasn't for him? that was my 2 year anniversary present! (w/ a $750 dollar price tag!)
I have always had good grades, I'm in 10th grade and already have $450 in scholarship money.
I'm not sure some people will appreciate my chiming in, but I just thought you might want the opinion of someone closer to his age. |
I think its great that you're chiming in!
I had a similar experience. I'm 18 now, and have been allowed to date since whenever I wanted to. I went on my first date and had my first boyfriend when I was a sophomore in highschool, but could have done it sooner if I wanted too. I think it is because my mom was so easy-going that I waited until I felt comfortable to concern myself with all that romantic stuff. I plan to parent my future children the same way. I sincerely believe that if you put all these rules and restrictions on teens, they will rebel, and do it anyway behind your back, and even push farther than they would have on their own terms.
As for his grades dropping, I really don't think thats a factor here. I maintained a 4.3-4.7 GPA throughout highschool, and was accepted to every college I applied to (From Yale to UCLA to Whittier College, the small liberal arts school that I chose to attend). I think its important for teens to learn to balance a social life and academic and other responsibilities while they're still in high school, or else it will be overwhelming when they go off to college and finally are allowed to do everything that their parents never allowed them to (which is why I think partying, drinking, sex, and drug use is so prevelant on college campuses).