Wow!...There's a lot going on here...first you complained about the treatment of your pet and how upset you where with his behavior of throwing the dog into the shower...if this was a one time event and he is genuinely remorseful then maybe it should be forgiven...but if this is an escalating or continuing behavior then you are responsible for what happens to your pets by not protecting them, they are totally helpless in these kinds of situations....
There are trade off in all the decisions we make in life, I hear your complainants about your BF like, immature, rude, flippant, can't talk to him, etc. etc. but then the post start flying about how awful he is then the defenses and justifications kick in....
You really need to take a good look at what your really trying to save here...you have been in this for several years and the one constant in this is his rude attitude, then you say he may turn into some wonderful man some day...that is so sad to hear a woman say.....Be honest with yourself, dig a little deeper in why you stay and I'd wager it's more because of your fears, self doubts, avoidance to take responsibility for yourself, etc.....Select don't settle...you say you already have invested 4 years into this relationship...it may be that you have wasted four years.....The price tag you put on yourself will determine the value of the people and situations you'll pick and tolerate....
Men are here to share our lives, not be our lives....I hope for you and your pets sake this fairy tale has a happy ending...
__________________ B.J.mom to :  Jake J.J. Jack & Joey, momma misses you..... The joy found in the companionship of a pet is a blessing not given to everyone. The two most powerful words when we’re in struggle: me too.. |