See, I have the patience for my dog. I don't mind the whining, but he does have to learn to be in the crate for when we make long trips and stay with other people. And I don't think what Tbone did warranted a trip to the shower. Tbone gets very anxious in the crate, panting loudly and hunching in odd positions. But he will calm down and sleep in there once he knows that I'm only going to let him out to go potty and then he has to go right back. I think I am a consistent dog parent, but the bf does things without my knowing it before I can stop him. I was asleep when he put him in the shower.
I am trying to find a job, I have good prospects. I just got my bachelor's degree this spring and am going back for 2 more degrees. I am making an independent life for myself. But I have been too dependent in the last year. And this incident has made me realize that I am in too deep. I had some financial problems in the past, horrible credit, and the bf helped me out of all of that. Unfortunately, that means that the car I paid for is in his name, we have a lease together on an apartment, etc.
I do sit down with him and try to talk things out, and eventually he comes around, but there are these times like last night where he snaps and does something irrational. And I also agree with all of you that it has to stop. One of my friends from KS is coming down to see me today, and it will make a big difference to have someone around that cares about my sanity. It will give me time to cool down. Because I can be quite a spitfire if you catch me while I'm still mad. I have quite the sharp tongue. Ugh, I still need more time to think about it and talk it out, and all of you are helping so much!! Thank you thank you thank you! |