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Originally Posted by Wylie's Mom  Oh honey. That is so wrong, I don't even know what to write.
You can't be with a person for the man he GOING to be, you choose a partner based on who they ARE. |
My brother used to say :
"IF 'ifs' and 'buts' were candy & nuts, it would be Christmas all year"
In other words when you say "what if I leave him and he turns out wonderful?" you cannot live your life based on IFs.... I was with a guy from age 19 to age 28 and we broke up and I ventured out on my own. I had friends yes, and family ... but I didnt turn to them to support me. I went and got the best job I could, went to night school (still trying when I can) and I have a 7 year old car and a beautiful townhouse now. Its a struggle to make it on your own... but if he is only 23 what age are you???? Probably WAYYYYY too young to be dependant on ANYONE... what IF he does not want to get married to you in 1 year from now and tells YOU to leave????? Then what???
Im not telling you to dump him, I dont even think he sounds like a jerk... I am telling you to consider what if he dumps you! Then where will you be? Something to think about! Time to make your life all about you and get it going!
Its a LONG life!