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Originally Posted by labrown  Unfortunately, I don't have that kind of freedom right now. We just moved to TX together, because I wanted to move, and he is the breadwinner. And he really is a fantastic, upstanding guy. He just has lapses. Which I know is INEXCUSEABLE, but I don't have any leverage. I have nowhere to go, no car, no job, no money. And one of the dogs is in my name and one in his, and I'd NEVER leave one with him and take the other. There are so many things I just have to put up with. |
OK, in all fairness.... Ive gone to trainers and my vet who have SAID to me that when a dog is out of control to PUT IT IN THE SHOWER.... this is not abuse. It may not sound that nice, but you are not hurting the dog and you are taking his mind off his current dilemma. Your boyfriend doing that is fine... but letting the dog back to the crate soaking sopping wet is wrong... Im sure he knows that though. He does not sound like a mean guy, just an OVERtired one, as Im sure you are too.
But girl, you need to get a car, a job, some money, some friends.... this is like a prison sentance for you, not a life. There is soooo much that you are missing by not having some sort of independance, even if its just a part time job. I don't know your circumstances, maybe you cannot work for other reasons, but you shouldnt feel that its a reason you HAVE to stay. You need to figure out your own life. If you are not happy with the situation then make the necessary changes... its hard to make the first step, but they get easier after the first one and its very rewarding!
Good Luck with your situation. You need it
