Aren't you worried that Tbone will get pneumonia? I would be. I wake up in the middle of the night to cover Kalina because I think the air conditioning might be too cold.
For the record, this is something I don't really want to write, but for your sake I will: My daughter is married to a man and has four children. She is still waiting for him to "change and get better". He never will. Now, instead of just her being the target of his crazy mood swings she has helpless little children who are suffering. She has a brand new car, he drives a Mercedes, and they have a beautiful home, swim club, the full monty -- but no one is happy.
As to the crate problem: I took an upholstered chair and put it facing our bed but directly butted up against the bed and covered it with a nice soft blanket. Kalina sleeps on the chair from 10PM until 6 or 7AM like a little angel. She can't fall off because she is surrounded by the arms of the chair, the back of the chair, and the bed. She is right next to me so I can pat her or cover her if she wakes up. And we get a good nights sleep without her underfoot. It's a perfect arrangement for us - maybe you could try something like that??
Meanwhile, think carefully about your situation - Good luck.
