I really do appreciate what you all are saying. And that's why I came to YT with my problem. I want honest opinions.
I know that non communication often causes divorce, but I also know that it took years for the happy couples I know to become happy couples, and the only reason they stayed that way is because they refused to give up. I don't want to give up on this guy. He can be so wonderful. And he can be so crazy. But if I gave up on him now, and in a year he grew out of all of this behavior, then I would have screwed myself. He is going to be a wonderful man, he is very nurturing, he loves to work with kids, he spoils me rotten. The only reason I have my two pups is because of him. And the only reason I don't live in a box is because of him. He supports my dreams. My parents have been married for 35 years, and they have been blissful all of my life. But the 10 years they were married before I was born were not as blissful. And I wouldn't exist if they hadn't stuck it out and worked through their problems. I can't see this guy being like this for the rest of his life! He is only 23. Did any of you get married young? Was it perfect from the start? I just don't know about anything but my own personal experience, and this guy is the best guy I've ever dated. A genuinely good guy. He loves me, loves my family, and gives in to my every wish. Ugh, y'all are making this harder instead of easier. BUT THAT'S GOOD! I need to talk about this, it helps me think things through. And since I don't have friends here to hash it out with, I need you ladies! |