I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this. Is there any reason the pup can't sleep with you? 4 of my 5 do. The 5th likes to sleep under the bed. They don't move very much and my husband and I sleep just fine. They stay on the floor during 'cuddling' time for my hubby and I.
The 'shower' thing makes my heart hurt. That poor baby. You sound like a good mommy, by the fact that you got up, dried him off and loved him. I try not to give any advise concerning relationships, other than the fact that you need to pray about it and follow God's leading.
Good luck!