I would immediately change vets. To me it sounds like the vet was being very inconsiderate and rude. You said it was Gracie's first visit, and what a horrible one by the sound of it. To be honest i think i would call the vet and tell them how rude she was with him and that they will never see you or your baby again. Even if the vet was having a bad day, it's no excuse for the way Gracie was treated. Hopefully you can find a vet that will be gentle and loving towards Gracie for her next visit!!!! Good Luck !!!