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Originally Posted by Ida  I have not been a member here that long as far as I'm concerned. When I first joined YT a few months this site full of information and helpful people - I read a lot of threads started a few and learned a lot!!!! - It just seems though that recently as you read the threads there are some very cranky people out there - Everyone - (well not everyone) but people seem to be looking for ways to put others down. It almost makes you afraid to ask a question or post a comment. My thoughts - which I think I've been true to are - if you don't have something good to say - don't say anything - Read and leave without commenting - Some members are stressed due to lost dogs - or sick dogs - or home issues and they get added stress by comments on what they posted. It could just be the heat - but cheer up people - Life is short - No need to comment negatively on every post you read - As I said above - (my mom always said this too - and I'm sure you all heard it before) IF YOU DON'T HAVE SOMETHING NICE TO SAY - DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL - We may actually have some shorter threads lol.
Have a great day -
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Hi Ida, I'm sorry your time here hasn't been pleasant for you. Your observation of this cattiness is definitely not new. I've seen a number of these threads from unhappy members over the past few months, so your not alone. There are a lot of what can be considered rude or snippy posts that will usually be justified by the usual excuse of: I'm entitled to my opinion. This statement tends to be an escape clause to avoid any judgments, or criticisms or to avoid being condemned themselves.
I believe that just because some one disagrees with our point of view does in no way make us wrong. It may be wise to take into consideration if the input is useful, insightful, objective, or caring. Advice and/or criticism is NOT objective at all. The advice giver has their own guilts, hurts, fears, needs, angers, cynicisms, and arrogance that greatly influences where their expressed views are coming from. Just because our feelings may get hurt in the process does not necessarily mean the advice giver has done anything wrong. We each need to decide for ourselves what is useful to us and what is just mean spirited.
Judgments are absolutely necessary ...without them where would we get laws and codes of conduct...we have to be able to use our own judgments to filter out what where willing to tolerate, what we'll support, and what we'll permit in your own life. We each have our own value system that judges some behaviors as better than others. So ultimately we all choose are own actions and reactions, we can only be responsible for our own choices on how we behave.
I hope you stay around and continue to filter out the rude remarks, sometimes ignoring them altogether is the best response...
