That is true, you have to follow the proper procedures especially in your position, I know my husband and son are officers and you have to be careful, I can't understand why nobody is getting you this info, I missed out on the whole issue that took place here, so maybe I am just in the dark...I have too stated that I am out of state but would help in any way, I have flying benefits through my work and can fly out and help or anything, just never hear anything...I guess all we can do is wait and hope...