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Originally Posted by vainchick5  You are absolutely right to be upset, but if I may ask you something: WHY would you even put your daughter at a daycare where people smoke period? If I misunderstood your post I apologize but it sounds like you already knew that the lady, her helpers and her sons are all smokers and they do it when they are outside with the kids. I wouldn't even leave my kids anywhere there was smoking at all. Even smoking outside is bad, because they are still interacting with the children and the children are inhaling the smoke.  |
I have to be honest, I cannot think of a good reason why I took her there in the first place, even knowing that the lady smoked. When I was desperately looking for child care, a very good friend of mine highly recommended this lady. I went to see her, took my daughter with me, and didn't see anything wrong with the place. I didn't ask if she smoked because I guess I assumed she would not smoke around the kids, even if she did smoke. Once I realized she was smoking around the kids, Trinity was very attached. My daughter does not deal well with change, so I decided to let it go. I struggled for a while with the fact that they smoked in front of the kids but I always thought that I was being unrealistic by asking them to change how they have done things for more than 20 years. I know that Trinity will be exposed to people smoking, I know I can't protect her from all of the evils of the world. Both of her Granny's on her dad's side smoke and so I thought, well, she see's it anyway, I just need to let her know that it is bad. And I have. I explained how my granny died (she made the trip with me to see my granny while she was in the hospital) and explained to her the health problems that come from it. I never thought she would "mimic" smoking. But as I talk to my child, (she has an amazing vocabulary and is super smart) I realize that she didn't think "pretending" would cause any problems. So then, I realized that I never explained to her about the germs that are on the butts, the risk of them making her sick, etc.
So....I now realize that by neglecting to say anything in the past about the smoking, I am now paying the price for that. I should have said something a long time ago. but this doesn't change the neglect aspect of the situation.
Somehow, they are not disposing of them properly, and IMO are not supervising the kids close enough.
let me tell you what my friend told me a few minutes ago. She takes her son there because he and Trinity are only 6 months apart in age and are sooooo close. they just love each other. She knew i had been taking Trinity there for several years so this summer, she decided to take her son there. She is a very heavy smoker, but feels the same way I do about this situation. She decided to talk to her son about it. He admitted to playing with them as well. When she asked him where the adults were, he said "they were inside with the babies, while the babies were taking nap". she said, "so, you were outside alone???" he said "yes, we always stay outside by ourselves while the babies are sleeping".
OMG
so, they are leaving 5 & 6 year old kids outside alone...hmmm...well, now this just confirms my belief that they are not supervising the kids. which would explain how trinity could have been "pretending to smoke" and no one know about it.
so, i now need to talk to the day care provider about that as well.
good news is...Trinitys friend that was in her class this past year lives down the street from us. maybe 9 or 10 houses down (we live in a TIGHT subdivision). Her mom called me out of the blue this morning to see how trinity is doing. very random phone call. I explained the situation to her and she felt my anger. she understood. she offered to keep trinity for the rest of the summer for us. I talked to Trinity about this and she is very excited. she LOVES going over there!!! this lady has 3 kids close to trinity's age so she will have plenty of people to play with.