All relationships go through stages. A new relationship is exciting and fun. After being together for awhile, people become more comfortable and less attentive. Paying less attention to the small details can be a sign of familiarity. It leads to people being more relaxed and feeling less like they need to be on their best behavior. It is not necessarily that they love you less. They just take it for granted that you know and can feel it without being told. Although moving on to a new relationship could be exciting. It too would eventually mellow into more of a "partnership." Sometimes we long for the days in the beginning when he gave us "butterflies" in our stomachs, but for the long term it just isnt as important as being married to a true friend. It is an important decision with lifelong effects. I hope you feel better. If your husband doesn't want to go to counseling, you could go alone. That can be helpful too. Good luck!
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