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  Hey sweetie, if you really love him, just give it time.  I have been married 38 years and there have been several times when I thought divorce was the only answer.  Every marriage has its ups and downs.  My husband would never consider counseling either.  There were several times that I had to have "talks" with him.  Now after retirement (which is hard at first) we are closer than ever.  Try every option first.  good luck, Patty  |