I want to make sure I am not misunderstood...I was not suggesting that I go to cool springs right then and get some coffee...I was indicating that I needed to go soon to get the alarm reset...
He knew I was still going to sit on the porch with him. He got upset when he did not know why I said "anyway". He said "what do you mean, anyway??" Like he didn't realize that what I meant was "I need to go to cool springs soon, so I can get coffee when I go."
I just was not clear in my speaking. he didn't realize I was saying that as a verbal confirmation that i could pick up coffee when I go.
ok...with that being said...I want to update the situation.
we both stayed very busy at work today. I had to go handle a crisis with my company and he was meeting with subs all day. So we stayed busy. He did send me a msg asking if I could have lunch with him. I just smiled when I got that. But unfortunately, I was 1.5 hours away from him and couldn't get back any time soon. So I asked for a rain check and he said OK. so...we will make it up tomorrow. The rest of the day was kinda quiet but when I got home, I saw he was online and asked when he would be home and what he would like for dinner. This made his day because he is the one that usually cooks in the house. I told him I intended on going to the grocery store and would be picking up a few things for dinner and asked what he preferred..chicken or beef. So...he was excited to get home to a cooked meal
He got home and I could tell he still had a headache. he had indicated earlier that he didn't feel good. So he went and laid down in the bedroom. I went in and laid with him, kissed his forehead and asked if I could get him anything. He said he just got all he needed
so we laid there for a minute until i had to get up to check on dinner. Well, after dinner, we laid back down and just talked about nothing. it was very nice. i laid my head on his chest and suddenly we were back to when we were dating. We both commented on how nice it was.
so we realized at that moment, that one of the things we are lacking most is affection. We work very closely together with our companies involved with each other so our relationship has turned very "business-like". We realized tonight that we really need to put the passion back into our marriage. even if all it means is that we lay on the couch together and make jokes. Holding hands while walking through the grocery store.
When we first got married, we used to have this game we would play. We had each day of the week put on a slip of paper. We put them all into a bowl. Each week, we would both draw a day out of the bowl. We would keep it secret. Well,. whatever day we drew, we did something special for the other person on that day. it was so fun. it got kinda hard after a while cuz we ran out of ideas
we would start repeating ourselves over and over again. But it was fun. it was exciting. We need to do stuff like that again.
Our 1 year anniversary is May 7. I am hoping that on that day, we can look at each other and say that this is only a second in time for us compared to the long life we have ahead of us. I think we just need to do things to keep it alive.
look at the sticky note that he left on my computer a few months ago...
Let's make sure that before today is over we take one step closer to being stronger together until we last forever.
Love
-JIM-
yeah, he is a doll.
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Originally Posted by Baby Blessing 
 very well said Vi.
Hi Pepi Mint
I did reread your post and so I am going to quote something you said in it,
I think your hubby was looking forward to your being with him on the porch and your joining in a cup of coffee with him. Seriously think about the different situations and maybe there is something you can do to help make things better.
Jack and I will be celebrating our 51 year wedding anniversary this month May 19th, I am not going to say through our earlier years it had not been without squabbles, we had our share but we never lost sight of WHY we got married, and growing old together has been marvelous. We had lots of differences too, but that's okay we are all individuals, needing each to be
ourself. That doesn't change things and one's love for the other. We just worked around those and let each other be the person of their own opinion. We have seen lot of heartache through the years, illness's, loss of loved ones, so thankful to have each other to gain strength from one another through those times.
We have come to the time in life that Jack is trying to get through each day coping with Progressive Parkinsons, The Lord has helped us get through so much in this lifetime and we find ourselves leaning heavily on him more and more. I myself can only pray and ask the Lord to give me the strength I need to help him and give thanks back for giving me the patience through the years of the many struggles we had to endure to reach the age we are and be Blessed with the time we have had together.
I pray that things will work out as I know you really care that they do.
Please know this is all typed to you in sincere good thoughts and with love.
From the both of us,
Patti and Jack |