Red98vett,
First of all, let me say I am so sorry for what you're going thru. I have been there. You see, my late husband died at age of 43 due to Pancreatic Cancer. He wanted a Corvette, but didn't get it. I think on some level he realized he wouldn't be able to ride it much due to his fastly deteriorating condition. And I think he knew that that would be an extra burden on me after he died. I am glad he didn't because there are so many things going on that are added stressors to the grief you already feel. And he had great insurance which helped tremendously. But let me just say before addressing the Yorkie question, that I am here for you. Though I don't know you, let others help you during this difficult time. And please feel free to IM me. I'll be glad to help you. You won't realize the importance of friends and family when things are tough. Believe you me.
Regarding the question you posed about getting another Yorkie. It does not sound like this is the time to get one as much as you love them. I would agree with what Judy's2yorkies said earlier, needing to ask him what is causing the urge for him to want one now. This is really important. Has he always wanted another Yorkie, or now that he's sick? I would advise you to have an honest discussion and see why he would like a new puppy now. Does he want to have another puppy as a distraction for you when he passes? That was my first question, but I don't know your spouse. And my question that I'd like for you to ask yourself is, "Is the main reason that you would consider getting another Yorkie at this time because you feel sorry for him? If the answer is yes, then my suggestion to you is that you have a lot on your shoulders at this point and that now is not a good time for you. This is a time you have to make time to take care of yourself. I hope I am not speaking out of turn(I am a psychiatric social worker who retired last year and changed careers). You will need time to heal. Perhaps at a later date you will be ready for another bundle of joy. Take care, and please feel free to contact me.
~Bella, General Patton, & Maria~ |